Virtually everyone has been dumped at some time in their life. I know I have and I know how much it hurts. Rejection is like a severe pain twisting your insides. You may feel nausea, headaches and even sickness. Some people find that for some reason they are subject to every cold and bug within 10 miles! Picking up the pieces is very tough. You will wish that your life could go back to the way it was before your ex left and you will live in hope that they will return. You may even feel that nobody will ever want you and that you will never find love again. This is of course nonsense but you will not realise it until the day you are finally over it.
So, how can you get over the pain? How can you learn to live again? How can you stop feeling that you are unlovable and unwanted and that fate has marked you out for a lifetime of solitude, misery and bad luck? How can you start to enjoy singledom and start to have some fun?
The first step
You have to realise that your ex is not coming back to you. This is a painful process and it doesn`t matter whether you are young and have lost the woman of your dreams or you are a 40 year old who has been left by her philandering husband of 20 years. The healing process is still the same.
Remember that you will get over it. It might not seem like that right now but in time you will.
Let it all out. You may cry for a day, a week or even a month or two and when the crying stops you know you're half way there.
Talk to your friends and family. Talk about your ex until you have no more words to say. You will know you are getting better when you are bored with the subject yourself.
Shout, yell, scream even punch a pillow (don't punch any people though - you can end up in serious trouble.) Let all your anger out. Then take 5 minutes to calm yourself down by taking some deep breaths and not moving. You will feel much better and more so once you are calm.
Look after yourself
You may be off your food, not sleeping properly, drinking too much, smoking or generally not looking after yourself. With all the added stress this will begin to show. Take long, hot scented baths, play music that helps you to let your feelings out and allow other people to get close to you and to care for you.